spending quality time
In our family, we feel it is important that our kids appreciate the things they have and understand, at a certain age, how they get the things they have. Both my husband and I have full time jobs outside our home and from an early age on our children made the connection of work = money but of course the value and worth of money is not quite understood yet.
When I think back to my childhood, I have many happy memories that pop up in my mind. The ones that have stuck with me though are not the ones where a lot of money was invested, but instead the really special ones are the memories where I spent time with my sisters doing “normal” and “boring” things. Except, they were never “normal” to me and they were anything but “boring”, because we had fun and we laughed and we had to figure out what would make that day adventurous.
Quality Time with Dad
“I am not like you when it comes to coming up with cool activities for the kids and playing with them at home”
My husband is a great father and loves spending time with our three sons. Whenever he needs to find an activity to keep our three (very active) boys entertained for an afternoon, he prefers to get into the car and go away somewhere with them. When he told me that the reason he does this, instead of making use of our great garden and the vast number of toys and games we have lying around the house, he told me the above sentence. All of the sudden I realized, it’s not that he wouldn’t rather spend some quality time here in the comfort of our own home with them, but it was actually because he didn’t think he could keep them occupied or interested in activities if it was in their usual environment which they knew so well. It’s true, I do like to come up with some activity or other that our boys enjoy and that I can guide them in, sometimes more and sometimes less. And yes, it is a huge challenge to come up with things to do that will keep them all interested, because we have such a huge age gap between the kids (1 year old, 3 years old and 11 years old). So it made sense to me that if this task is this challenging for me, having worked at schools and daycares my whole adult life, it would seem impossible for my husband who has never worked with kids at all.
And with this note, welcome to the series: Quality Time with Dad
Family Summer Activities
A Note from Malia…
Finally, summer is here. As a school teacher, this is always a time I look forward to. Don’t get me wrong, I love my job, I love it so much that I am still not over it when I walk into the classroom each morning. I appreciate it with all my heart that I get to do something I love doing for a living. On top of all that, I work at a wonderful community that feels like family. This is something I never want to take for granted.
The reason why I look forward to summers is that I get to go less by schedule and more by intuition. During working hours, I am on a constant schedule
telling me when I need to get up to be able to get everyone and everything ready for the day, what class I will see at what time, when my lunch time will be and for how long, and what is the worst for me how much time I get to spend with my kids. The moment we get home it’s homework time, shower, dinner, more homework and oh, it’s time for bed already?! Where has the time gone when we can just spontaneously sit down and play a game together? What about going for a bike ride after dinner? Too often, this is what I want to do, what my gut feeling says I should be doing, but instead I am forcing my kids to get back to do their homework and carry on with their rituals. This could go into an entire different blog topic, and perhaps I will do that in the future. For now, I would like to focus on what happens or can happen when those “obligations” are no more for just about two months. Summer, where have you been?
So the first few days my family just takes total advantage of the long awaited break. We have movie nights, try to sleep in (although that never works at the beginning since we are still on the school clock), and just be plain lazy as can be. Once it has sunk in that we are on THE holiday, we get into the active mode and start to list out and do all the things we always wanted to do. These do not necessarily have to be huge adventures, they can be simple things that make us happy. Yes sometimes we do go on longer vacations elsewhere but that is not what this blog is about today. Today, I would like to remind you of the simple but awesome activities you might want to do with your kids. You probably already heard of them, played them yourself, but sometimes we forget what we can do or how little it takes to make a fantastic day. So I want to share some of my family’s favorite things to do.